The dating game at any age can be a challenging and exciting time in someone’s life. Feeling like a naughty teenager again, kissing on the couch with a low budget movie or outside the door after a date … this all sounds familiar. The question is, what happens at 40 plus? Surely, dating can be a vehicle to something greater, like a relationship or marriage?
The stakes are much higher at this crucial stage in life. According to an article by the Editors of Men’s Health Best Life Magazine titled “The Crucial Decade”, reproduced by MSN under the title “40: The Crucial Decade”, between the age of 40 and 50, the following questions permeate through the minds of many married men:
• “Will your marriage survive?”
• “Will your kids turn out all right?”
• “Will you have enough money to retire?”
• “Are you working too much?”
These are tough questions for married people, at least they have each other to tackle them. For 40 plus bachelors and bachelorettes, finding someone to ultimately spend their lives with, could be an important concern. Here are charming ways to find a lover … and maybe a partner for life.
Tips for Dating Divorcees
The article entitled “Dating After 40: What’s New?” published on the Discovery Channel’s website by Faith Murphy, producer and writer for companies such as MSNBC online and Discovery Channel online – Murphy says divorcees take the dating game too seriously, when they should actually be having fun. Murphy advises that divorcees need to relax, pay attention, and act natural.
“Take a tip from the ‘younger’ set and ‘just chill’… enjoy your date’s company and look at the experience as a chance to make a new friend,” says Murphy in the article mentioned above. However, to score a few more brownie points, divorcees need to start taking an interest in their “companions” or new-found friend’s life, says Murphy.
Tips for Single Women
Women need to avoid looking at the situation from one perspective, such as thinking about the size of his bank account, the car he drives, and his dress code, explains Murphy in “Dating After 40: What’s New?”. Most importantly, acting natural will add to a more relaxed date by suppressing emotions of nervousness, says Murphy.
In an article called “Dating Tips for Women Over 40: 5 Unexpected Places to Meet Great Men Over 40”, the writer Lisa Daily, lists places for single women over 40 to meet bachelors. Published in the American Chronicle, Daily lists the following places to meet men: at a barbecue; golf course; a friend’s work function; at “self-growth” classes such as seminars, lectures, and conferences.
Finding the perfect match can be a sweaty affair – hopping from one date to the next, wishing to finally find the one; but at 40, maybe it’s the experience not the outcome that matters.
